Matthew 22:34-46
When the Pharisees heard that he had silenced the Sadducees, they gathered together, and one of them, a lawyer, asked him a question to test him. ‘Teacher, which commandment in the law is the greatest?’ He said to him, “‘you shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, and with all your soul, and with all your mind.” This is the greatest and first commandment. And a second is like it: “You shall love your neighbor as yourself.” On these two commandments hang all the law and the prophets.’
Now while the Pharisees were gathered together, Jesus asked them this question: ‘What do you think of the Messiah? Whose son is he?’ They said to him, ‘The son of David.’ He said to them, ‘How is it then that David by the Spirit calls him Lord, saying,
“The Lord said to my Lord,
‘Sit at my right hand,
until I put your enemies under your feet’ ”?
If David thus calls him Lord, how can he be his son?’ No one was able to give him an answer, nor from that day did anyone dare to ask him any more questions.
“The Lord said to my Lord,
‘Sit at my right hand,
until I put your enemies under your feet’ ”?
If David thus calls him Lord, how can he be his son?’ No one was able to give him an answer, nor from that day did anyone dare to ask him any more questions.
What is it that makes us different as a congregation from any club or business or any other secular institution that is out there? What makes us different is that we are unified as the children of God, and therefore are to treat each other with love. And what does this love look like?
Our view of love is often wrapped up in emotions, the way someone can make our pulse race or the make us feel as though we are floating on air. It is Colin Firth proposing in Portuguese in the film Love Actually, it is Bella swooning over Edward in Twilight, and Jasmine and Aladdin singing “A Whole New World.” Often love is this amazing emotion that fills our entire bodies and makes us never want to let a person go.
Yet, as with all emotions, this kind of love rises and falls constantly. At first it is exciting to be so head over heels for someone that your every thought is filled with images of them. But then reality sets in and that person does not fit our ideal and our emotions can begin to mellow after there have been too many toilet seats left up, too many nights when they went out with friends instead of being with you, or just plain having different interests that they like to go on and on about. It is because none of us is perfect and none of us are exactly the same that we begin to have issues with communication and with assumptions, and that emotion can begin to fade. Yes, there are ways to revitalize that emotion, those feelings, yet we can’t keep those emotions going consistently. I know those emotions can go right out the window when Amy and I are watching a game between the Penguins and the Red Wings, but that doesn’t mean that we are not showing each other love in those moments.
But we are called to love God with all of our heart, all our soul, and with all our minds and to love our neighbors as ourselves. We know it is difficult to maintain that love emotion for one person that we desperately want to be with, so won’t it be even harder to love God that much and to love our neighbors as ourselves? Of course, but we need to also realize that the love that we are speaking of is not that romantic, idealized sense of love. Not all loves are the same. This is good, because it could get really dicey if you start to love your neighbor as you do your wife or husband. No, instead this is a love which is about action over emotion. It is not how you feel about someone, but rather how you treat people and how you display the emotions that you have to people.
For instance, if we should have a disagreement with someone and we become very angry due to this disagreement, how is it that we are to express that anger? Do we decide to yell and scream at this person, tell them that they are wrong and call them an idiot, or worse? No, instead we talk to them out of love. How so? First off, we listen to one another, honestly listen. Instead of waiting for our turn to speak or tuning them out until they are done, we take in their words. At the same time, we remember what Luther said in his Small Catechism about the 8th commandment – “You shall not bear false witness against your neighbor. What does this mean? We are to fear and love God, so that we do not tell lies about our neighbors, betray or slander them, or destroy their reputations. Instead, we are to come at their defense, speak well of them, and interpret everything they do in the best possible light.”
We interpret everything they do in the best possible light, therefore when we listen we assume from the beginning that they believe and say what they believe in the bottoms of their hearts and they are not acting out of malice, but rather are also acting in a way that they believe to be good. We also remember that we are all flawed human beings, that none of us are perfect, including ourselves, and we could very much be in the wrong in a disagreement as well. Which is also why we listen, to find out if there is something that we could have done or said differently to bring about a better relationship with the other.
And when we speak, we speak only from ourselves and our beliefs, instead of resorting to phrases such as “You just don’t know what you are talking about” or “Many people agree with me, so you need to get on board with me.” We treat each other with respect and with honor and in this way we show love to our God, since when we act towards another we are also acting towards God, since each of us carry the image of God and are God’s children.
We will not always agree and there will be conflict between us. It is inevitable, since anytime you get two people together, they will be bound to disagree and argue about something eventually. Our love for neighbor does not mean that we will be free from conflict and will live in peaceful harmony with one another. Instead it is that we treat each other with love and compassion and mercy, just as God cares for us. It is also a good thing that we will have conflict, because if we just sat around doing and saying the same things and never disagreeing with each other, we would never be challenged, we could never fully form our believes and our identity, and our ministries would never grow. Each conflict, if handled appropriately and lovingly, has the possibility to strengthen this congregation, that it may be of even greater service to the Kingdom of God. But each one that we handle without love, but instead with spite and the sense that “I need to win” will only cause it to self-destruct. If we decide to turn each conflict into a series of “who wins” instead of seeing them as ways for us to se God’s will for Jerusalem, there will be no winners, but instead only a mausoleum that used to hold our congregation.
But when we show love to one another, and thereby show love to God, we shall be blessed and we will see the will of God active in this congregation. As Luther puts it in the conclusion to the Ten Commandments, “God promises grace and every good thing to all those who keep these commandments. Therefore we also are to love and trust him and gladly act according to his commands. We are promised a life of purpose, as well as grace and life eternal by God, therefore we are to act with love and compassion, as God has loved and shown compassion to us. We are called to a different way of life than secular culture, we are called towards a life that is filled with understanding and respect for one another, instead of a life that is spent eternally seeking to climb to the next rung of the ladder, kicking away all those who may compete with us.
Therefore, when we do have conflict in the congregation, let us not rally together the troops, trying to get as many people on “our side” as we can in order to fight against those who disagree with us. Nor let us sit around and spread gossip and ill will towards one another, in order that our brothers and sisters may be devalued. But instead, let us openly discuss the issue among each other and open our ears to one another, so we may truly listen. If we shut down and do not allow for the possibility to be swayed by the other, there is very little to be gained from any conversation and neither person will be able to grow. Likewise, if we are constantly at war among each other, how can we hope to begin to work together to spread the good news of God and to be the great city on the hill that we are called to be? Instead of tearing each other down, we need to build one another up, to help each other see the gifts that God has made manifest within each of us and to use those to the best of our abilities, for the glorification of God.
All we need is love, that which brings life and blessing and purpose. So do not be afraid to let go of hate and fear. As Yoda once said, “Fear leads to anger. Anger leads to hate. Hate leads to suffering.” And we are not a church that desires to bring about suffering and pain, but rather we bring about hope, that which is created through love. It is this love that sets us apart from all other communities and all other organizations. We are united through the continued acts of love towards one another and outwardly to all that we should meet and all whom suffer. We do this out of thanksgiving to our God, who took upon himself human flesh and lived among us and suffered death on the cross so that we may have eternal life. We act with love because we were lived first by our Creator and we are infused with His Holy Spirit and with His very body and blood. We do this because we have been shown grace and mercy, even though we have done nothing to deserve it. So let us praise the Lord and show him true love, through love for one another and for all people throughout God’s creation. In this way, God may be seen and known. Amen.